20 Things People Say To Pregnant Women

If you’ve ever been pregnant, you know that people tend to tell you exactly what is on their mind without holding back.   

People act as if a growing belly is a sign saying something like, “I want all of you thoughts, opinions and advice on anything and everything.”

Here's a list of some things people have said along with some suggestions for things to say instead. If you've said some of these things to a pregnant person before give yourself some grace, then sit back and take notes.
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What people say vs what they should say

1. You’re huge! → You’re looking great! 

2. Are you sure you’re not having twins? → You’re looking great! 

3. You’re tiny! → You’re looking great! 

4. You need an epidural! → There are so many ways to give birth. You’re going to do great! 

5. You’re planning a natural birth right? → There are so many ways to give birth. You’re going to do great!

6. You need a (insert chosen gender)! → Congratulations! 

7. You’re pregnant again?! → Congratulations!

8. Those kids are going to be too close in age! → How exciting! 

9. When are you going to try for your next baby? → You’re growing a great family! 

10. Make sure you have (insert chosen baby gear here). → Let me know if you’d like any tips or help picking out baby gear!

11. Get ready to feel like a cow from breastfeeding → Your baby is so lucky to have you as their parent. If you ever feel like you need more support at any capacity, let me know. I know of several great resources in our community. 

12. You’re cloth diapering right? → Your baby is so lucky to have you as their parent. If you ever feel like you need more support at any capacity, let me know. I know of several great resources in our community. 
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13. Let me tell you about my birth… → Nope. Just keep your story to yourself for now. Comparison is never a good thing for a pregnant woman. If she wants to hear it, share it after she has her baby. 

14. You’re naming them what?! → It sounds like a lot of thought went into that name. 

15. You’re giving birth in Bellingham, WA? Don’t go with (insert provider’s name)! → There are so many great providers in Bellingham! You’re going to make a great choice! 

16. You’re having your baby in Mount Vernon? You better go with (insert birth location)! → There are several great places to give birth in Mount Vernon. I am excited for you! 

17. You are having a C-section?! WHY? → It sounds like you’re making the right choice for you and your baby. 
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18. You’re too young to be pregnant. → There is so much to look forward to with a new baby. 

19. It's about time! → Congratulations!

20. You know formula is horrible for the baby right? → How are you doing? I am so happy for you!

Obviously we always want to remain genuine while talking to anyone. So if the positive spin on these statements don’t sit well, keep it to yourself. 

There is plenty to think about while preparing for a new baby. Please don’t add to the stress. We understand most of these statements are well meaning but we never know someone’s internal battles. 

​What were some things that others said to you that caught you off guard? Have you said any of these statements? We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments! 


North Cascade Doulas is a group of doulas in Bellingham, WA who are focused on providing unbiased labor support, childbirth education and placenta services to our families. If you are looking for a doula in Skagit County or the surrounding areas, reach out today. You’re sure to only get the positive statements from us.